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Remembering

Do not be afraid, for I have ransomed you.

    I have called you by name; you are mine.

Isaiah 43:1 (NLT)

See, I have written your name on the palms of my hands.

Isaiah 49:16 (NLT)

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Tradition is important to me and my family knows that on your birthday to expect an early morning phone call that begins with, “Happy Birthday to you…!”

I met Mark on the Internet and only a few weeks into our friendship, I flew off to take care of the grandgirlies. The day before I left, I received a beautiful bouquet of red roses with a card that read, “I’ll work hard to see that you remember my name.” (Bonus points!)

I like cards. Mark and I have started the tradition of buying several cards — holidays, anniversary, birthdays — and having them pop up during the day as a way to celebrate the moment.

Recently, we celebrated our eleventh anniversary. I posted a couple of wedding pictures on Facebook and received 87 “likes.” It was not a particularly “special” year but it was a reminder that we had made it through some tough ones. As I reflected on all the people who cared about us, it brought me to tears. So many know my name.

But even if no one ever notices me or remembers one special day, I know that God has not forgotten. My Heavenly Father loves me yesterday, today, and forever. He doesn’t have to ask me how to spell my name — He’s got it written on the palm of His hand. How can I not love this One who gave His very life for me?

He remembers my name…

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Respect? Yes!

So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Ephesians 5:33 (NLT)

Do you ever feel deja vu in the middle of an argument with your dearly beloved? Are you walking on eggshells afraid to further inflame the situation? Are you tired of rehashing the same old thing and seeming to get no response or relief? I have been married a total of almost 29 years and thought that I had read every Christian book on marriage. However, last week I discovered a new one that I highly recommend, Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needsby Emerson Eggerichs. Dr. Eggerichs description of a typical argument, calling it the “Crazy Cycle,” is right on. But he goes further and explains how we can get out of it and move on to become a truly energized couple without all the craziness. The “aha” moment came for me as he explained that the cycle will be broken when I show respect for my husband. Most of us are very familiar with the idea of love in a marriage, but respect? Paul is very specific in his writing stating that the husband is to love and the wife is to respect. Why? Because God knows that He needs to remind us to do what is not natural for us to do. Men and women are so different—in fact, that is one of the subjects I want to discuss when I debrief with God in heaven. The author helps me to see through my pink sunglasses and hear with my pink hearing aids, that Mark wears blue, only blue. We don’t approach life the same way at all but who would want to be married to your clone? I have discovered that a simple change of attitude and approach works wonders in my marriage. Let me know if you have any thoughts.

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