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Comparisons

Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. 

Galatians 6:4 (NLT)

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I relate to many young moms through MOPS and we recently discussed the topic of comparisons at our meeting. We all live in a world inundated with social media — Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest — to name a few. And it can be overwhelming to look at your own house and children after browsing though Pinterest and not be discouraged.

One mom mentioned that she no longer even looks at those sites. It depressed her so. Well done, young mom.

We have a tendency to think that “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” Comparison can lead to envy which is only a step away from anger and bitterness. No husband wants to come home to a wife who constantly complains about how much the neighbors have. That picture perfect moment on Instagram was taken just before the baby threw up all over you. Life is not perfect.

That comparison mentality is deadly because so many of our wants or desires are just that — not needs.  What is the antidote? Contentment…

Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. Philippians 4:11-13 (NLT)

…and gratitude.

Whatever happens, keep thanking God because of Jesus Christ. This is what God wants you to do. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (CEV)

I have a small red journal set aside to record the gifts that God gives me. Sometimes I write in it every day, other times, several days will go by. But I always ask myself before I begin, “What gifts has God given to me lately?”

I read through several of the pages this morning to remind me of His great love. It’s a great way to set the mood for the day.

Smile. You are right where God wants you to be, with what He wants you to have. It’s a good day.

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Discipline

To discipline a child produces wisdom,

    but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined child.

Discipline your children, and they will give you peace of mind

    and will make your heart glad.

Proverbs 29:15,17 (NLT)

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I love being a grandmother because I’m able to enjoy all the fun things with my grandgirlies without having to deal with the hard stuff. And my world has lots of girlies — from teenagers to toddlers. I am also a Mentor Mom at MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers.)  Discipline is a fact of life.

While FaceTiming with the “littles” yesterday, Eleanor, the 4yo, was happily playing with a set of plastic cones, stacking them up, and chatting as we talked and watched. She is the first born and has a correct way to do most things.

Enter Sabrina, the 2yo and baby, who literally bounces from one thing to another. As she bounces past Eleanor, she grabs one of the cones—just because she can—and hightails it to the other side of the couch.

Wailing and gnashing of teeth tumble from Eleanor in a flurry of words and tears. Sabrina appears impervious to it all.

Enter Daddy (Now, Daddy is my son, so it’s interesting to watch the discipline scenario.) He is sitting on the couch between the girls.

In an effort to hear Eleanor’s frustration with her little sister, yet gently reprimand Sabrina for her unkindness, he disciplines them with his words in a way that affirms both (Mommy is quietly coaching in the background.)

Children are not born with self-control. That disappeared in the Garden when sin entered the world. Parents are God’s messengers to this sometimes, unruly world of growing up. It’s not easy, often messy, but so necessary.

Proverbs frequently mentions fools and compares them to the prudent. We want to raise wise, well-behaved, prudent children. Keep it up.

The father of godly children has cause for joy.

    What a pleasure to have children who are wise.

Proverbs 23:24 (NLT)

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